tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2512522326546330039.post3377019009511037227..comments2018-08-31T13:18:54.292+01:00Comments on Keeping body and mind together: How to get off that roller coaster of approvalKathleen Kettleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02317076380504668072noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2512522326546330039.post-72188610852464883402013-09-01T19:14:52.182+01:002013-09-01T19:14:52.182+01:00I'm sure many of us are doing this approval-se...I'm sure many of us are doing this approval-seeking thing in very subtle ways, even when we think we're not. I certainly was, and I would have been shocked to have realised it - I couldn't see it because it was functioning at a very deep level, a level which I didn't really even know was there. People in our culture often seem to think that the kind of thing you're suggesting is 'selfish', which to me is an indication of how mixed up we are about it all. <br /><br />I was listening in the car the other day to David Whyte talking about a Mary Oliver poem called 'The Journey', and he was talking about how it sounds selfish to leave the house and walk out in search of your own larger life... but that the line in the poem which talks about 'walking deeper into the world' indicates that it's actually the opposite.<br /><br />Your situation sounds quite shocking and difficult, Jools..<br />Tamsinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10005849693688143703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2512522326546330039.post-53893658601222828052013-09-01T18:19:59.894+01:002013-09-01T18:19:59.894+01:00Wow, that is a tricky situation - it certainly doe...Wow, that is a tricky situation - it certainly does highlight the importance of not being pulled in, or pulled down by the opinion of others! Thanks for the comment Jules :-) Kathleen Kettleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02317076380504668072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2512522326546330039.post-61259319620530461872013-09-01T17:22:48.155+01:002013-09-01T17:22:48.155+01:00This is such a tough topic, particularly as I'...This is such a tough topic, particularly as I'm now able to hear so much criticism from a family member who suffered a brain injury. The result is that so much of that approval I sought as a kid that was then balanced out in an adult relationship has now become unsettled again under the strain of so much straight and unfiltered talking. All the more reason to become self approving!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12445629159912795832noreply@blogger.com