Your true nature is perfect!

Have you ever been walking down the street with a young child and you've caught them staring wide mouthed at someone who was dressed or looked differently to those people they were used to seeing in their lives?  There's a moment when the other person notices you noticing them as you've both noticed the child's reaction - and in that impasse an awkward pacifying smile creeps from your mouth.

I liken this situation to the gentle, tolerant way the body tries to calm the over keen, excitable childlike headmind.....let me explain.
The core essence (bodymind) knows EXACTLY what makes your heart sing, what keeps you well, what you should avoid at all costs and what you need to be doing in order to maintain a healthy life.  Every so often though, our headmind (and ego) observes other peoples lives and decides it wants some of that!

So, the body has to go along with the heads forceful, determined plan of action..BUT the body will only tolerate this for a short time, and then it will do whatever it has to in order to get you back into that healthy aligned place, where there is harmonious communication from the body (telling you what feels right) and the head (putting those feelings into action).  Annoyingly for us though the only communication tool the body has is symptoms...so....if you are feeling symptomatic sit quietly and allow the truth to surface.

What are you not saying or not doing NOW that needs to be addressed?  AND remember, don't let the head say, "Well I would do all those things if I felt better.."  because, there's a high chance you have symptoms because you're NOT doing those things!

“Just keep being true to yourself, if you're passionate about something go for it. Don't sacrifice anything, just have fun.” ― Blake Lewis

 "The moon is faithful to its nature and its power is never diminished.” ― Deng Ming-Dao

Kindness

One of the uglier sides of human nature is selfishness.
A regular response to my questions about selfishness towards others is, "Well why should I?  What have they ever done for me?!"  I might point out something they've told me their loved one did for them, but that's often met with a shrug and dismissed.
That type of answer makes me sigh.....heavily.
It saddens me to witness someone taking pleasure as their partner or loved one does more and more things to please or satisfy their needs, knowing full well that they won't be reciprocating their partners selfless act.  I gently, but directly encourage them to do just one kind thing, without expectation or an agenda attached, just one, selfless act of kindness.
Resistance is normal at this stage - but I persevere!
When we are in a relationship - any relationship- be it with our children, significant other, friends or in a work setting with colleagues, giving and receiving is the only way to maintain a healthy bond with our fellow man.
See the unity within all of us.
We all appreciate kindness, thoughtfulness and selfless acts - your partner is no different.
You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by hanging up your selfish hat and trying something new.
"Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness." - Martin Luther King, Jr.
"Be kind whenever possible.  It is always possible." - Tenzin Gyatso, 14th Dalai Lama

Select all, copy, paste

We live in a copy and paste society.
People use the same phrases over and over again.
One size fitting all - only it doesn't.
Cliches, metaphors and analogies trip off tongues without thought into whether or not they are in context.
This habit scourging our society appears to me at least, to be transferring to our behaviour.
Don't spend tomorrow copying and pasting the mask you wore yesterday - today is a new and unique day with experiences that will feel differently, IF you allow yourself to pay attention to your feelings!
Duplicating your response to a situation on the basis that that's how you've always responded, does not make it right.
Celebrate not being a robot carrying out it's function.
You're a one-off!
Be you, feel your emotions and express yourself!
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." - Oscar Wilde
"I pay no attention whatever to anybody's praise or blame. I simply follow my own feelings." - Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart