Handle with care.

A trauma can feel like a paper thin, fragile, egg being carried in our hands.  Cupping it gently, believing that we owe it to ourselves to protect the memory of the trauma, burdened with the responsibility of remembering every detail of the event or events, the strain starts to tell, the trauma tightens its grip in our head, and we tighten and clench our grip around the memories.

Another crack appears on the egg.

Panic sets in. 

What if the egg shatters?  What if all that happened during that time is forgotten?  

The traumatic event may feel as if it forms your identity and the idea of living without it can cause anxiety to rise.

Look inside a box of eggs and you will see some are speckled, some are paler than others, there may be some dirt on the shell of one, a slightly strange shape or mark on another.  The details, or distinguishing marks on the exterior of the shells makes no difference to the contents contained within the egg.

Stop staring at the external events that have marked you, and start focusing on yourself from the inside. 

Be still.  

Meditate. 

Pray.

Ask for help and seek support if you need to - changing your focus can start right now!

"The past has no power to stop you from being present now. Only your grievance about the past can do that." - Eckhart Tolle

"The beautiful journey of today can only begin when we learn to let go of yesterday." - Steve Maraboli