If you've ever been in a relationship where you had to get things right or you'd face dire consequences, even though the controlling relationship that started this belief may have ended long ago, you may still be suffering from a deep rooted belief that you must always make sure other people are okay before tending to your own needs.The idea that you should do what you want to do can send those who've experienced that type of relationship into a head space that has them confused and reeling at the very thought.
While helping others is noble and good - making sure you're okay and that you're getting your needs met is equally, if not more important.
So where do you put yourself in the pecking order?
If you're not at or near the top, why not?
That voice in your head that stops you from moving in the direction that truly makes your heart sing does not belong to you. It was "gifted" to you long ago from someone who needed to keep you down, someone who needed to control you. The idea of you being an independent thinker was, for whatever reason, too difficult for them...but that voice has no power over you now.
No matter how small a change you make, start now. Start by taking a baby step in the direction of what you really want from this life - from your life today.
With love, Kathleen x
"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone elses' life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition." - Steve Jobs
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