Sometimes, and for a variety of reasons, we get stuck in a belief system that the limitations we are living with right now is just the way it is for us these days. I have heard from clients literally hundreds of times phrases like,
"I used to be able to travel on my own."
"I used to have more self-confidence."
"I used to enjoy having time on my own."
"I used to love socialising."
When you hear yourself reminiscing about a positive attribute you seem to have lost somewhere along the road, remind yourself that it's the same you right now that had those abilities as is thinking they are outwith your reach now. Sheesh! That was a long and grammatically challenging sentence!
Seriously, if you HAD the capacity to display and enjoy these qualities, you HAVE the capacity to re-claim them now. Don't let your head convince you those days are past...liberate yourself from those headmind chains by stepping back into your confident, able self and enjoy coming back to the real you!
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth - and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Do you another thing, though? We change. Perhaps we can get stuck in thinking, 'I used to love X', and wonder what's 'wrong' with us now. But isn't possible that we might actually no longer actually want something that we still associate with good times in the past? Perhaps that bodymind reluctance is trying to speak to us of something new....
ReplyDeleteHi Tamsin, true it can be about giving up stuff we've grown out of and venturing on to pastures new..and I'm always up for folk doing that of course! However, when I'm working with people who are living incredibly restricted lives and living under the belief that they "used to be able to get out and socialise" and they THINK they're not able to now it's apparent their body's have a very different idea and letting go of that belief is essential to them getting well again :)
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