This self-sabotaging cycle of thought can only end one way - badly! How can it possibly be useful to ruminate and ponder over what might have been? It hasn't been..therefore it wasn't going to be.
So if you find yourself slumping into a never ending battle of an imagined life versus reality, be clear with the truth. You are here NOW! What can you do differently TODAY that will make you feel just that little bit better, that fraction more fulfilled when you look back at it TOMORROW?
You have a responsibility to yourself to stop dragging through old stuff, and pay attention to today...right NOW!
"Opportunities fly by while we sit regretting the chances we have lost, and the happiness that comes to us we heed not, because of the happiness that is gone." - Jerome K. Jerome
"You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present." - Jan Glidewell.